Absolute madness. This morning at work one of the staff members doesn’t pitch up so I catch up on all her work and mine and no one can reach her or has heard from her and its a busy day, we prepping for a photo shoot that I was hoping not to style because I have studio work to do. Sadly her boyfriend gets hold of me and her mom tried to commit suicide at 4am this morning. Seriously, no. Can there be anything worse than that, I’m shocked and horrified and sad. Life is so fickle and fleeting and unpredictable and just awful actually.
One day you wake up and half your life is gone. You get into bed at night and you snuggle with yourself or your loved one and you set your alarm and think about your weekend and what you have to do in the morning, and you remember that you forgot to water the garden and you probably think about work and then you sleep and you dream.
You wake up and in a second your life has been turned up and down and you are shattered.
Gratitude. Gratitude is possibly the most important feeling and we have to feel it and experience it and live it every day. I have goose bumps all over my body just thinking about how amazing my life is and how fortunate I am. No matter how shit things get we need to be grateful for the things that aren’t shit.
I’ve never believed in comparing ourselves and our troubles to others, as we are all such unique individuals that have crossed completely different paths. There will always be someone that has it worse than you, there is always someone that is suffering and struggling more than you and I respect that and I believe that. But I don’t believe that that is reason for us to feel better about our own troubles, I don’t think that we should minimise what we are going through. Every one has their threshold of pain and God or the Universe or whoever you believe in will only give you what you can handle. Thats at least what I believe – we are such resilient beings and we are slapped in the face with so many obstacles and we get through them and they are hard for all of us.
Just because failing a test isn’t a big deal to you it doesn’t mean it isn’t a big deal to someone else. I can feel myself getting annoyed. When you have a rough day and someone says ‘it could be so much worse, at least you aren’t living on the street’ well thank you so much for pointing that out Captain Obvious. Of course it could be worse, it could always have been worse! That is really the lowest form of sympathy on planet earth, I mean if you say that to me then I immediately think you must have the emotional range of a teaspoon. Everyone has their stuff, some people come with baggage and some come with trunks and some come with trailers filled with trunks. Everyone has their stuff and your stuff or my stuff isn’t any more superior to anyone else’s stuff!
So my heart bleeds for my colleague, and it bleeds for everyone that is experiencing a rough time, and anyone that is thinking that they just cannot cope anymore. You can cope and you will cope and not only will you cope, you will thrive and you will come out so much stronger. And you, just like I have recently learned – are so courageous and resilient and you have no idea what incredible things you are capable of!
God, I’m feeling so passionate about this topic – moments like this are the ones that make me want to just help people and open soup kitchens and adopt a rescue dog and just hug a stranger. Because at the end of the day, you and me and every stranger on this planet we are all one and we are all together in this maze called life and we are all just winging it. We’re all just people trying to help people.
I think my coffee has just kicked in…